So let’s stop here, just for a second, and reflect on what all ‘this’ might do to one’s self esteem and self worth. Josh starts second grade, three grade levels behind his peers yet he has an average IQ. He’s no dummy. In fact he’s smart. He feels like crap. Heart breaking things I have started to hear: “Why is everybody at school better than me at everything?”, “Why do I have to have this brain?”, “I hate school”, “Everybody at school is mean to me”.
Ok, so what about getting Josh into Special Ed-
Although testing was complete in March 2008 Josh is not found eligible for special education until November 2008, half way through the school year (let’s just waste more time and let him get further behind).
SURPRISE! Josh is determined to be specific learning disability eligible, yeah I have only been trying to tell the school district this for how many years! So now I am thinking “ok, we had a false start but now the ball is really rolling!” … yeah right (ok ‘yeah right’ is not what I was thinking at the time but it should have been).
So here are the summary notes from an IEP meeting March 2009. At this point Josh has been in special ed for 4 months.
“No improvement in reading comprehension. Josh does not do well when Mr. Special Ed Teacher goes into the general ed classroom to help him with reading. Josh is embarrassed of his reading in front of his peers and is often uncooperative. His self concept is very low and he often gives up. At times he has cried in the room. When he receives one on one support in the resource room with Mrs. Nice Special Ed Teacher he is much more cooperative because he is receiving individual support and there is no one else in the room. It is also noted that Josh is uncomfortable in new situations, and has difficulty following multi-step instructions. He also does not recognize cause and effect. Ms. Berry states that Josh continues to struggle with speech”.
Anyone catch the red flags???
Ok, how about this one:
Josh often told me that Mr. Special Ed Teacher was mean to him but could not explain why he thought this. I thought that maybe Josh was interpreting being pushed to work on things that were challenging as mean. I didn’t know that Josh’s speech impairment was much greater than what I suspected and that he had issues with word finding as well as expressive/receptive language. In forth grade I found out how mean Mr. Special Ed Teacher actually was.